...ok, so at the end of the season last year I had a big falling out with a very close friend, we haven't spoke since - until an e-mail yesterday.
Now first, we've been friends for years, he was there for me during my second divorce and some other dark times. I was always there for him and his family, was even the only friend that came to see him, his wife and new baby boy at the hosbital. Point is we were there for each other no mater what for years, then he started getting more and more distant. Hard to get ahold of, didn't return calls what-so-ever, just kind of faded away. He slowly turned into a "friend" that only called when HE needed something.
I always called him (and left a message) with an invite to hunt or fish ANY time I was going. Also called and gave hunting reports, scouting reports and any other helpfull info. I feel many times when I wasn't able to hunt, but scouted and gave them the info on where I would go, they did and got on the ducks.
We were on the same lease last year along with some other so called friends. Well things continued to go downhill during the season. I was able to hunt a lot more than the rest of them and as an end result and root cause was not asked to return to the lease. In addition other names and mudslinging along with a "you are now banned from any activities, (hunting, fishing, etc.) with Mr.A and Mr.B"
This happened over text and email NOT a SINGLE call or in person meeting. Him and the others flat out refused. I was not in the wrong for anything over than getting to hunt more often than them. There were no rules or guidelines on the lease contract pertaining to how many times to hunt, how often etc. After many emails and texts only and some more BS and namecalling, I finally had enough and requested they loose my numbers, contact info and not to contact me again.
I felt completely betrayed and stabbed in the back, hell I still do. With friends like that, who needs enemies?!! Just completely blindsided me, no idea or warning. I had never been betrayed like that before in my life. All the trust I had was gone.
So, I started my own lease and members for this season, and just moved on.
Fast forward to yesterday, got an email from him stating how sorry he was/is for all that was said & done seven months ago, now asking for forgiveness.
Now I'm not above forgiveness, you know the saying "forgive but don't forget."
However a few things are bothing me here. Why contact me now? It's only a week before season kicks off, is he just trying to get back to buddy-buddy for the season? What is his motive? Does he have a hidden motive or is this a real apology? I just don't know.
The trust I had there will never be the same, I still feel like I have a knife sticking out my back.
I am thinking long and hard on how to respond.
On one hand we used to be the best of friends, on the other when this happened I found out who my true-real friends were.
Thanks guys.
Now first, we've been friends for years, he was there for me during my second divorce and some other dark times. I was always there for him and his family, was even the only friend that came to see him, his wife and new baby boy at the hosbital. Point is we were there for each other no mater what for years, then he started getting more and more distant. Hard to get ahold of, didn't return calls what-so-ever, just kind of faded away. He slowly turned into a "friend" that only called when HE needed something.
I always called him (and left a message) with an invite to hunt or fish ANY time I was going. Also called and gave hunting reports, scouting reports and any other helpfull info. I feel many times when I wasn't able to hunt, but scouted and gave them the info on where I would go, they did and got on the ducks.
We were on the same lease last year along with some other so called friends. Well things continued to go downhill during the season. I was able to hunt a lot more than the rest of them and as an end result and root cause was not asked to return to the lease. In addition other names and mudslinging along with a "you are now banned from any activities, (hunting, fishing, etc.) with Mr.A and Mr.B"
This happened over text and email NOT a SINGLE call or in person meeting. Him and the others flat out refused. I was not in the wrong for anything over than getting to hunt more often than them. There were no rules or guidelines on the lease contract pertaining to how many times to hunt, how often etc. After many emails and texts only and some more BS and namecalling, I finally had enough and requested they loose my numbers, contact info and not to contact me again.
I felt completely betrayed and stabbed in the back, hell I still do. With friends like that, who needs enemies?!! Just completely blindsided me, no idea or warning. I had never been betrayed like that before in my life. All the trust I had was gone.
So, I started my own lease and members for this season, and just moved on.
Fast forward to yesterday, got an email from him stating how sorry he was/is for all that was said & done seven months ago, now asking for forgiveness.
Now I'm not above forgiveness, you know the saying "forgive but don't forget."
However a few things are bothing me here. Why contact me now? It's only a week before season kicks off, is he just trying to get back to buddy-buddy for the season? What is his motive? Does he have a hidden motive or is this a real apology? I just don't know.
The trust I had there will never be the same, I still feel like I have a knife sticking out my back.
I am thinking long and hard on how to respond.
On one hand we used to be the best of friends, on the other when this happened I found out who my true-real friends were.
Thanks guys.
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